Relationships

     When it comes to relationships, my grandmother always has a "secret code" question she asks when I or my cousins see her.  She always asks us, "How is (whatever the boyfriend's name was) doing?"  That always meant, is he still around, not really, how is he.  I did find that changed once I got married, then the question really did mean, how is your significant other doing.  When I was in the dating scene, and I replied, he's good.  She would always say, "Still good huh" and then she would laugh.  I don't think I will ever forget that memory.  It was just one of those questions you expected to hear when you either talked to her on the phone or went to visit. 

     One time I will never forget, which I believe she has done this to all of my cousins as well, was when my response to her "secret code" question was, "Well, he's not around anymore", she replied, "That's good."  Of course, when your young and you break up with your boyfriend, you're sad and you think you'll never meet anyone like him ever again, that's not what you want to hear. But, obviously, Grandma was right.  It was a good thing.  Obviously, because after many break ups, I finally met and married the love of my life.

     My grandma explained to me one time that when she was young, you could date whoever you wanted, you just didn't have a boyfriend that you were exclusive with.  That was normal then.  She just couldn't understand how us girls only had one guy we dated.  Which explains why she always told us, "That's good" when we broke up.  She told me a guy brought her chocolates one time and wanted to take her out on a date and she said no, but took the chocolates anyway and gave them to her younger brother.  I thought that was hilarious.  A guy in this day and age would probably take the chocolates back. 

     I love listening to her stories of back when.  It's crazy how times have changed so much.